Anonymous
02/07/2021 07:26
Subject: Evan Rachel Wood names her abuser.
Anonymous wrote:[
DP. Why do predators choose a certain individual?
Predators use prey detection techniques
Anonymous
02/07/2021 00:54
Subject: Evan Rachel Wood names her abuser.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This thread is exactly why there is continued stigma and silence about abuse. The assumption is immediately that the victim didn’t do something right and that there’s something broken in her / her family. That’s just not true and if you think being a “good parent” protects your children entirely, you are wrong. Very wrong.
Anyway, sad that these gross misperceptions exist since it further victimizers abuse victims and gets the predatory off the hook.
And enablers like you allow it to happen. No one is disputing that Warner is responsible for his actions but there are several of us disputing that Wood was let down by her parents when they didn't try to help her after knowing what she was experiencing. Her abuse involves more than one person at fault. Warner was the perpetrator but there were people who could have helped her and they didn't.
Good parents don't ignore the physical, sexual and emotional abuse of a their child. Good parents don't watch their child be physically, sexually and emotionally abused over long periods of time, years in fact, without trying to help. Good parents do what they have to in order to help their child.
Please point out how these "good parents" did that. We'll wait...
I’m not an enabler. I was in a horrifically abusive relationship as a young adult. I have great parents and a great family. We talked about abuse and signs and what to look for. My parents were invested in our safety and our self esteemed. And then I found myself in a relationship that went from seemingly loving and healthy to deeply emotionally and physically abusive. It was assertions like yours - that I should have known better, that there was something broken in me (or my family) that added to the shame and silence. So, as I posted up thread, there aren’t always warning signs and even people with “good families” can be victims of abuse.
Also, suggest you be a little more sensitive in your approach to the topic and get informed - you don’t seem well versed in the complexity of how predators behave, which is not binary or obvious (that’s how predators are able to manipulate and control). Also, be kinder to those posting. You never know who you’re talking to on an anonymous forum. I don’t always want to say “hey, I know this stuff from personal experience” but yes, I do. Maybe consider being a little more respectful with your tone and really think about what you’re saying and responding to. Thanks.
DP. Why do predators choose a certain individual?
Anonymous
02/06/2021 17:52
Subject: Evan Rachel Wood names her abuser.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This thread is exactly why there is continued stigma and silence about abuse. The assumption is immediately that the victim didn’t do something right and that there’s something broken in her / her family. That’s just not true and if you think being a “good parent” protects your children entirely, you are wrong. Very wrong.
Anyway, sad that these gross misperceptions exist since it further victimizers abuse victims and gets the predatory off the hook.
And enablers like you allow it to happen. No one is disputing that Warner is responsible for his actions but there are several of us disputing that Wood was let down by her parents when they didn't try to help her after knowing what she was experiencing. Her abuse involves more than one person at fault. Warner was the perpetrator but there were people who could have helped her and they didn't.
Good parents don't ignore the physical, sexual and emotional abuse of a their child. Good parents don't watch their child be physically, sexually and emotionally abused over long periods of time, years in fact, without trying to help. Good parents do what they have to in order to help their child.
Please point out how these "good parents" did that. We'll wait...
I’m not an enabler. I was in a horrifically abusive relationship as a young adult. I have great parents and a great family. We talked about abuse and signs and what to look for. My parents were invested in our safety and our self esteemed. And then I found myself in a relationship that went from seemingly loving and healthy to deeply emotionally and physically abusive. It was assertions like yours - that I should have known better, that there was something broken in me (or my family) that added to the shame and silence. So, as I posted up thread, there aren’t always warning signs and even people with “good families” can be victims of abuse.
Also, suggest you be a little more sensitive in your approach to the topic and get informed - you don’t seem well versed in the complexity of how predators behave, which is not binary or obvious (that’s how predators are able to manipulate and control). Also, be kinder to those posting. You never know who you’re talking to on an anonymous forum. I don’t always want to say “hey, I know this stuff from personal experience” but yes, I do. Maybe consider being a little more respectful with your tone and really think about what you’re saying and responding to. Thanks.
Anonymous
02/06/2021 16:59
Subject: Re:Evan Rachel Wood names her abuser.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don't think he did it. Sorry. Her career is washed up. She wants press in the era of 'me too'. I don't buy it.
She spoke out about her abuse long before it became it was "trendy"
Also sad that it's a trend because so many women are abused. And only a fraction feel safe enough to speak out.
And many other women have come forward about warner's history of perpetrating abuse. No one has come forward saying Evan Rachel Wood has a history of making stuff up
NP and agree. She's got established acting chops and she's still young. I remember a lot of stories years ago about how he was molested as a kid and abused by his father and grandfather, both of whom had poor relationships with women. His behavior tracks.
Anonymous
02/06/2021 10:51
Subject: Re:Evan Rachel Wood names her abuser.
Anonymous wrote:I don't think he did it. Sorry. Her career is washed up. She wants press in the era of 'me too'. I don't buy it.
She spoke out about her abuse long before it became it was "trendy"
Also sad that it's a trend because so many women are abused. And only a fraction feel safe enough to speak out.
And many other women have come forward about warner's history of perpetrating abuse. No one has come forward saying Evan Rachel Wood has a history of making stuff up
Anonymous
02/06/2021 10:22
Subject: Re:Evan Rachel Wood names her abuser.
I don't think he did it. Sorry. Her career is washed up. She wants press in the era of 'me too'. I don't buy it.
Anonymous
02/06/2021 09:48
Subject: Evan Rachel Wood names her abuser.
Let’s be honest, plenty of nice girls wind up in relationships with abusive men. The only reason people in this thread think her parents should have dragged their 18 year old daughter away by her hair is 100% because of the way he looks. If he looked like Brad Pitt, well, she’s an adult how could the parents have known??
Anonymous
02/06/2021 09:36
Subject: Evan Rachel Wood names her abuser.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This thread is exactly why there is continued stigma and silence about abuse. The assumption is immediately that the victim didn’t do something right and that there’s something broken in her / her family. That’s just not true and if you think being a “good parent” protects your children entirely, you are wrong. Very wrong.
Anyway, sad that these gross misperceptions exist since it further victimizers abuse victims and gets the predatory off the hook.
And enablers like you allow it to happen. No one is disputing that Warner is responsible for his actions but there are several of us disputing that Wood was let down by her parents when they didn't try to help her after knowing what she was experiencing. Her abuse involves more than one person at fault. Warner was the perpetrator but there were people who could have helped her and they didn't.
Good parents don't ignore the physical, sexual and emotional abuse of a their child. Good parents don't watch their child be physically, sexually and emotionally abused over long periods of time, years in fact, without trying to help. Good parents do what they have to in order to help their child.
Please point out how these "good parents" did that. We'll wait...
No one even said they were "good parents" they just said there is no information to say that they weren't or that they never intervened in any way. I'll wait for some of the citations that show how negligent they were. Haven't seen a lick of that, or the list of steps that a "good parent" should take when their adult child is in an abusive relationship. I would REALLY like to see that! Woods doesn't seem to blame her family in any way, so it is very strange people are rushing to do so. Like a defense mechanism, you think if you control your kids enough something like this would NEVER happen to them.
I'll hang tight for evidence that her parents did nothing and the appropriate (publicly visible) steps to take to get an adult out of an abusive situation. If we are all involved as enablers, we should know the concrete steps to take to free these adults so we are not complicit!
Anonymous
02/06/2021 08:52
Subject: Evan Rachel Wood names her abuser.
Anonymous wrote:This thread is exactly why there is continued stigma and silence about abuse. The assumption is immediately that the victim didn’t do something right and that there’s something broken in her / her family. That’s just not true and if you think being a “good parent” protects your children entirely, you are wrong. Very wrong.
Anyway, sad that these gross misperceptions exist since it further victimizers abuse victims and gets the predatory off the hook.
And enablers like you allow it to happen. No one is disputing that Warner is responsible for his actions but there are several of us disputing that Wood was let down by her parents when they didn't try to help her after knowing what she was experiencing. Her abuse involves more than one person at fault. Warner was the perpetrator but there were people who could have helped her and they didn't.
Good parents don't ignore the physical, sexual and emotional abuse of a their child. Good parents don't watch their child be physically, sexually and emotionally abused over long periods of time, years in fact, without trying to help. Good parents do what they have to in order to help their child.
Please point out how these "good parents" did that. We'll wait...
Anonymous
02/06/2021 07:59
Subject: Evan Rachel Wood names her abuser.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:3:57, Please do tell, why are certain individuals more prone to be victimized the way she was? You think she was a random pick? Let’s just be honest... she wasn’t.
Please do tell WTH you’re implying? That “certain individuals” are not prone to being victims, but predators do seek out certain types of people. You think these are the same thing; they aren’t. And yes, people are randomly abused despite the best efforts of everyone around them. The only person to blame is the abuser. Stop trying to justify victim and parent blaming.
While 100% safety is never guaranteed, one should learn how to minimize risks.
This girl wasn’t protected in the very predatory Hollywood environment.
+1 hollywood is the ultimate groomer. Be nice. Don't complain if you are physically or emotionally comfortable. Sell yourself.
She was only 14 when she shoot the film 13, which covered some heavy matters of teen promiscuity, crime, and self harm. Of course that's a movie not real life, but just some insight on her exposure and vulnerability at an early age.
Anonymous
02/05/2021 16:07
Subject: Evan Rachel Wood names her abuser.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:3:57, Please do tell, why are certain individuals more prone to be victimized the way she was? You think she was a random pick? Let’s just be honest... she wasn’t.
Please do tell WTH you’re implying? That “certain individuals” are not prone to being victims, but predators do seek out certain types of people. You think these are the same thing; they aren’t. And yes, people are randomly abused despite the best efforts of everyone around them. The only person to blame is the abuser. Stop trying to justify victim and parent blaming.
While 100% safety is never guaranteed, one should learn how to minimize risks.
This girl wasn’t protected in the very predatory Hollywood environment.
Anonymous
02/05/2021 13:40
Subject: Evan Rachel Wood names her abuser.
This thread is exactly why there is continued stigma and silence about abuse. The assumption is immediately that the victim didn’t do something right and that there’s something broken in her / her family. That’s just not true and if you think being a “good parent” protects your children entirely, you are wrong. Very wrong.
Anyway, sad that these gross misperceptions exist since it further victimizers abuse victims and gets the predatory off the hook.
Anyway, sad that these gross misperceptions exist since it further victimizers abuse victims and gets the predatory off the hook.
Anonymous
02/05/2021 12:31
Subject: Evan Rachel Wood names her abuser.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:3:57, Please do tell, why are certain individuals more prone to be victimized the way she was? You think she was a random pick? Let’s just be honest... she wasn’t.
Please do tell WTH you’re implying? That “certain individuals” are not prone to being victims, but predators do seek out certain types of people. You think these are the same thing; they aren’t. And yes, people are randomly abused despite the best efforts of everyone around them. The only person to blame is the abuser. Stop trying to justify victim and parent blaming.
+1000
Anonymous
02/05/2021 12:08
Subject: Evan Rachel Wood names her abuser.
Anonymous wrote:3:57, Please do tell, why are certain individuals more prone to be victimized the way she was? You think she was a random pick? Let’s just be honest... she wasn’t.
Nailed it.