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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not miserable at all. Key factors:
- WFH 2x a week, fairly flexible hours the rest of the week to avoid traffic
- A great nanny, and a Mom nearby who could be around and help[/quote]

Oh, AND
- An equal partner with respect to childcare and housework

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I have been able to work remotely for years. My mom lives with us and I have a cleaning lady who comes twice a week and a cooking/prep lady who comes for 3 hours on the weekend.

When kids were little, a nanny came and worked under the eagle eye of my mom.  When they were 3 years old, we put them in a Montessori school (paid full time, but used it 1/2 day for socialization only). Nanny came for part of the day. Mom supervised. I had basically 4 backups for childcare. Me, my mom, nanny and Montessori school.

DH is very involved dad and does not hesitate to help or to shell the money out to outsource.

Kids are in HS now, and I still have the cleaning lady come. My cooking person now cooks and delivers...slightly more work and inconvenience during the pandemic but no where near what employed people without childcare are facing.

Oh, also, for very long time, all my earnings was going towards paying for help...All. this was for years. We do not live in an expensive neighborhood of MoCo.[/quote]

How did your kids turn out? This sounds genius.[/quote]

My kids have turned out great. They do well in school, they are social, their mental health is great, they are self-motivated and chilled. They have lots of adults around them at home. While they don't need to do anything to help at home if they choose, they are actually quite self-sufficient in adulting too thanks to my mom (can cook, clean, do laundry, drive car, iron clothes, manage their medical appointments).  All of this worked because I had my mom living with me and she could supervise my home, and I mommy tracked and got a flexible job.   We were very lucky that things worked out for us and there were  no special circumstance or dysfunction to derail all of this.  We  prioritized kids, family and continuation of my career.  We compromised majorly on where we lived, our lifestyle, our savings and having a multi-generational household. [/quote]

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