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[quote=Anonymous]The state of your relationship prior to infidelity also plays a big role in the likelihood of recovery and rebuilding trust.  56 per cent of men and 34 per cent of women who cheat report being satisfied in their primary relationship.  Notice more women that cheat are dissatisfied with their marriage then men who cheat. Those who stay together after adultery for the sake of their kids or just to keep up appearances are more likely to break up.

In many cases, men and women who cheat “want to experience a part of themselves,” which they may have lost in their relationship — like their sense of spontaneity or feeling attractive, for instance.

It may have absolutely nothing to do with their partner. Even so, the person who’s been cheated on will often fixate on the “other woman” or man, wondering who he or she is and if they’re “better.”  In so many instances, people affair down.

There’s no evidence that suggests staying with a partner who’s cheated is a sign of low self-respect. In fact, in many cases, I would suggest that the willingness to continue to working through tough times demonstrates the opposite.
Think about it this way, if I came from a divorced family, like Beyoncé did (her parents divorced when she was an adult after her father cheated on her mother), who knows what her family went through in the wake of that divorce.

A lot of people choose to stay because they truly love that person and want to work through things.  Women who have the financial means to leave, have their own $ and careers will stay when there is a genuine love and a foundation there.

From Jay-Z (And what I have heard from men that would never do it again):  "You know, most people walk away, and the divorce rate is like 50 percent or something ’cause most people can’t see themselves," he said. [b]"The hardest thing is seeing pain on someone’s face that you caused, and then have to deal with yourself."[/b][/quote]

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