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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, it happens frequently. We have this one family in particular where the kids are very friendly with our kids. I had the whole family over for dinner and then as part of a larger party - then nothing. The kids keep playing, but no invitation to dinner or evening socializing is forthcoming. I heard the mom complaining to other friends that she's afraid to schedule something on the chance her husband might not feel like socializing. I'd be like, WTF dude? this is part of adult life.

So.....I just don't invite the whole family anymore.  No sense in continuing to feed them dinner, wine, etc. with no reciprocation. There are other families who do reciprocate that I am cultivating instead.[/quote]

Agreed! Cultivate, cultivate, cultivate. This is my problem. My spouse does not want to reciprocate because we host one or two very large parties a year and the last few years have been challenging.  We have invited the children of the families' who have had us over during this period over for, I hope, interesting day trips, sleepovers and regularly offer to drive kids places, invite my friends to coffee, walks, lunches, sports events, lectures, concerts etc.  The rumor mill pushes messages my way about our being rude and not reciprocating by a group of families. SERIOUSLY. This is what we can offer given our horribly unpredictable schedule, large family in the area and fixed responsibilities. I wish these otherwise fantastic families spreading these rumors would stop inviting us since I would never want them to feel rejected by us. We enjoy the moments we are together with these families as a whole equal to the sum of it's parts (outings, volunteering, free counsel, lunches, nights out sans spouses, parties, friendship) vs ONE dinner party? You go MEAN GIRL![/quote]

No problem, you're off the list.[/quote]

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