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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP you sound like a lovely person.  I've lived here most of my adult life, and it can take awhile to develop meaningful friendships here.  People tend to be more guarded.  Are you coming across as too eager? too in-your-face?  Are you trying to make plans with someone the very next weekend after you've spent time with them?[/quote]

I agree about people being guarded.  I'm just at the 5 year mark of mommy dates and playdates and finally thinking about wanting to get serious with perhaps making plans with other couples where we both have babysitters.  We are talking kids get along, parenting styles similar enough, spouses get along, person is not flakey about plans and makes time for people etc.

With eager it is like dating in that if u aren't sure u want to continue eagerness puts undue pressure and instinct is to back away.  I don't know why people don't respond to email or call unless there is a certain type of person u are picking that tend to be the ones where u do all the work or they just don't see the point in responding either because they are that busy, that by seat of pants, or that blunt if they don't plan to get together why bother follow-up.

With no drama there may be something to that.  I don't like drama with my friends because I get enough of it with my family that said if someone has no dysfunction in the family (brother, sisters, parents) and have normal workplace ( no crazy boss or co-worker) and house is always nice and they are always put together without breaking a sweat and we can't share one of those keeping it real moments when u find out u aren't the only one that deals with x....then likely we won't ever move beyond polite greetings.

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