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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote] I could tell her but I don't for the same reason I go elsewhere for sex. To keep the peace. There isn't anything I can do to change her mind or re-spark her interest in sex. So I go out and quietly get it with someone in the same situation. It's not ideal but it's better than it was before where I was holding in a lot of resentment towards her. As for letting her make an informed decision to stay married? Are you kidding me? She knows everything she needs to know besides that I have an AP. She knows I still have a strong sex drive. She knows that she has decided to permanently end our sex life, something we once enjoyed. And we had a great sex life. She has decided to stay married in this situation and decided that I just need to deal with it, like it or not. I tried for years to let her know how this affects us, and our likely future. But she has zero interest in addressing it. It just isn't a problem to her. She has decided to stay married in this situation. I've decided to stay married to her and not bother her about our lack of sex life anymore. I NEVER mention anymore and she seems happy with how things are. Telling her about my AP and blowing things up is not a good decision FOR ME right now.[/quote]

Fixed that for you.  Your post is one long rationalization from a selfish liar.  Tell her you have an AP and let her decide if she wants to stay married to you.  Your posts make it pretty clear why she is not interested in sex WITH YOU. [/quote]

Yes, it must be me.  I'm sure she still wants to have sex, just not with me, right?  Because I'm such a brute of a man.  You are a riot.  Is that how you feel towards your husband?  Blowing things up right now would not be good for her.  I would be much better off than her if we divorced but, as I said, there are 100 reasons people don't divorce.  I didn't go into any of them or mention anything about the rest of our relationship besides our lack of sex.  Neither of us wants to end our marriage.  This is far from ideal, but it works for now.  Does anyone in a marriage, man or woman, really not understand the likely consequences of deciding to end their sex life with their spouse?  Serious question I've asked here before and it never gets answered.[/quote]

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