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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are so many that push breastfeeding and no one really says its ok not to breast-feed.  She is trying to help and be supportive.  That's nice she got you some so if you don't pump baby does not go hungry.  Worst case you don't use it.[/quote]

+1  It is okay not to breastfeed.  I think your MIL is wonderful for trying to be supportive and helpful.  There is so much pressure on new moms and your MIL sounds like she is trying to be there for you without being in your face.[/quote]

So when you’re trying to teach your kid to tie his shoes and  he’s struggling, and MIL comes by and drops off some Velcro shoes because it’s silly to stress over learning to tie a bow, you’ll be happy for her support? Velcro is just as good and a shod child is a happy child. [/quote]

Get a grip, crazy. In your scenario that would also be fine, and you would simply not use the Velcro if you didn't want to.

Honestly, I sometimes wonder how any of you make it through your days.[/quote]

Uh your response makes no sense. Would she just put the shoes aside?

A lot of people think breastfeeding is way better for the baby. Some people who think that also have a hard time breastfeeding and don't want to give up at it. While I think what the MIL did is not outrageous, I see why some would think it's probelmatic. It's like offering chocolate cake to someone trying to lose weight, just in case they have a weak moment.

I think the issue is that so many people on this board have no idea how to deal with a variety of personalities and situations. If it's not exactly the way you think it should be or exactly how you imagine someone should act, it's a problem. Very brittle personalities on DCUM.[/quote]

So you put the formula on the shelf.  Check the expiration date.  If you don't use it when you get about 2 months out from expiration, donate it or post on FB that you have it and ask if anyone wants it and give it away.

It's not an insult or a challenge to you if you need it.  It's like having spare batteries or light bulbs around if you need it.  As long as you are BF enough or pumping enough, you don't have to use it.  If you find that your infant is hungry in the middle of the night and cannot get any milk, then you have it without having to go or have your spouse find a 24-hour CVS at 3am.  Its great if you never need it and can donate it.

Accept it as an offer to help you when you are struggling and seem exhausted.[/quote]

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