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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would either tell her she’s on her own for groceries and cleaning, (and follow through to make sure the cleaning happens) or[b] I would charge a nominal amount like $400 to cover groceries and extra housekeeping visits.[/b] [/quote]

Uh... $400 is NOT a nominal amount, are you crazy??

She's staying for 2 months, not being put on the lease. [/quote]

DP. $400 is not a lot for DC. Maybe in Wisconsin or something, but it doesn't sound like you live around here and have an understanding of what many families spend. [/quote]

Most people don't have housekeepers and you wouldn't need an extra visit.  $200 a month is reasonable.  She has the house and paying rent/mortgage anyway so the extra utilities and food.[/quote]

Anyone who thinks this kid will only be spending $50/wk on food is living in lala land.  Most kids these days can blow through $50 in a weekend.  If the girl has Asperger's and seriously does not pick up on social cues that is all the more reason to hammer these details out in advance.  Don't wait until she is in your home telling you that she only wants to eat take out food every day.

Her parents are the ones responsible for providing for their daughter and it is not o.k. for them to offload that responsibility completely onto Op.

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You are clearly spending way more on groceries than we do.  She'll probably be eating breakfast and dinner at home and lunch out.  Aspergers is a non-issue.  If she was parented well, she'll have the common sense to know basics of living with someone.  If she wants take out or eat out every night she or her parents can pay for it.  Simple.  OP shouldn't be expected to pay for meals out every meal for a college kid.  The kid will probably come with spending money and/or credit card.  [/quote]

You can not assume that this kid is coming with a dime much less a credit card.  Her parents have not mentioned a thing about sending their daughter with some spending money. They haven't mentioned a thing about offsetting some of the costs of this visit for Op.  That is why Op needs to hammer that out BEFORE the girl comes to stay with her. If she shows up asking Op for bus and cafeteria money, that might be a problem.[/quote]

You are projecting.  Most college kids have spending money or a credit card.  This family clearly has some money.  Most people would not offset the cost and anyone decent would get a gift card or nice gift when the child leaves.  Most of us would not take the money but would at least like the offer.  OP buys what she normally buys and kid can buy what they need/want.  This is a 19/20 year old not young teen.[/quote]

No you are projecting.  You assume that because you would send your college kid with a credit card and spending money to cover food/transportation/entertainment, etc that all parents would do the same.  We are seeing on this thread that there are definitely some parents who just send their kid to stay with someone and let the host pay for everything.

Generally, it is not a good sign when the parent does not even offer to pay a certain amount to cover costs each month.[/quote]

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