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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just be the best grandmother! Really, if you're close to your grandkids and know their routine, run with it. That will be the greatest gift for your son/DIL. Play a lot and stay engaged. Bedtime too! Get up early with them and make mom/dad coffee. Handle kids meltdowns. Just be calm and happy to be there!

My mother was a saint! Perfect grandmother in every way. I miss her so much but the love she had for my son (and everyone) is etched in my heart. My MIL was very different, but because of what my mother instilled in me, I was equipped to always be gracious. Hope your DIL is the same. [/quote]

You make me want to barf.  It is not the duty of your guest, family or not, make your damn coffee, babysit, clean your filthy house or buy your groceries.[/quote]

This lady is complaining that she doesn’t have a bigger role! You guys are just looking for ways to get offended. If the DIL tells you that you’re a guest and you can just relax and enjoy - you’re mad that you’re being “relegated” to a minor role. If the DIL gives you suggestions to get more involved, you get pissed of that taking care if your grandchildren is treating you like a maid and babysitter.

Honestly, no matter what your DIL does just admit you’re going to be mad about it. [/quote]

+100
How many times on here do we see advice to be clear about what you want if someone offers?

MIL: can I do your laundry to help?
DIL: actually, Eileen, like you, I find laundry to be an easy task and have my preferences. Would you mind vacuuming?
MIL: nope. I only offered on my terms

MIL: it will be so great to help with the kids! (and facebook to upstage that witch Helen and all her perfect pictures)
DIL: great, you can take them to soccer and then lunch?
MIL: nope, I just need a cute picture. Now I'm gonna nap. [/quote]

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