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[quote=Anonymous][quote=FPYCparent]I am not going to argue whether the opposing team (my DD's team in this instance, no less) got an advantage in that particular moment.  Yes, the play ultimately resulting in a goal scored.

However, I look at this from a bigger perspective.  What did the players really learn in that moment?  For one player, she probably saw her dad disrespect someone who she's supposed to respect.  (I think these girls are too young to simply yell out, "Dad, please stop!  You are embarrassing me!" )  Her dad was told to leave and didn't have the opportunity to see her perform the remainder of the game.  Whether the parent/adult was right or wrong, that was not the moment to push any further after the ref's warning.  Maybe the parent could have taken it to the coach at halftime and work it at that level.

There was also a younger female AR on the parent's sideline.  I like that the head ref came over and conferred with her before talking to the parents.  I like that the head ref was able to making this incident a teaching moment for the AR as well.

Let's say these players (and young ARs) are continually exposed to moments like that for the next 10+ years (and that is assuming this episode hasn't already repeated itself a few times).  When they're 25 and living on their own or with a partner, they'll think it's OK for a man (or any adult, really) to show outright disrespect … towards them or anyone else.  Speaking just for myself, that's not what I want my daughters to consider normal **and** acceptable behavior.

This incident in this game did not determine the final outcome.  We're still talking about a November soccer game between 11-year-olds where the final score will be forgotten in two months, if not two weeks.  However, none of the girls will forget witnessing an adult being thrown out.

And, yes, I would have no problem seeing that ref at any of my DD's matches in the future.  Having sat through two or three U12 season games this fall with no refs, I'd welcome him.[/quote]
Well, the PP said that the parent wasn't disrespectful, he just called out that the ref shouldn't have held up one of the players.  I mean silent soccer is no fun and I see no harm in basically saying...Come on Ref, you missed that one.  And maybe the girls got to witness what happens when you do actually disrespect a referee which is getting sent to the parking lot. I don't think these girls will be traumatized over this.  On a different note...by having a talk with this girl, did this ref save the girl the embarrassment of getting a yellow card for failure to respect the distance or delaying the restart?  Maybe look at it from that point as well. Also, couldn't someone else in the wall realize Mary was missing and they charge the free kick? Lots of lessons learned here.[/quote]

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