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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dude. If your wife isnt sleeping with you, there is a reason. Maybe ask her why.  If the answer isnt satisfactory or actionable, then you tell her if you can live with it or not.

Btw, sex isnt a need. Go to any high school or college and you'll find literally thousands of involuntarily celibate men. They dont commit crimes, rove around raping women, or generally blame women for their lot in life. The ones that do (like you) have bigger issues in play. [/quote]

Girl. If you aren't sleeping with your husband, there is a reason. Maybe tell him why. If sex is not important enough for you to clearly (in plain english) tell him your (actionable!) reason, then he is free to go elsewhere... because - by your own choice - sex isn't important, so it is no big deal when he does that unimportant thing elsewhere.

Btw, fidelity isn't a need. Go to any neighborhood block party and you will find thousands of sexless wives whose husbands have saved the marriage by going elsewhere. These women are quite content with exactly the life they have chosen: staying married while not having sex.

As to you (for no good reason) bringing up the "rape" word: you have this totally backwards. A husband who pursues sex with his uninterested wife is acting rapey. A husband who finds an interested consenting non-wife partner is NOT being rapey.[/quote]
Maybe she has told him many times that she is not happy that he's not doing xyz or doing abc, but he's not listening.

Maybe sex isn't important to her, but fidelity and the family unit are, and that's why she doesn't cheat.

Fidelity is not a need, but to say that if the spouse doesn't put out, then fidelity should not be expected is saying that even if you are super angry with the spouse, you should still put out, and just lay there because he will otherwise cheat is kind of rapey.

Maybe if both sides could sit and talk rationally it might help get to the root of the issue.  I think for the most part, some of these "cheaters" make very little effort to really work on the marriage, thinking they are the victims and feel they have every right to cheat.[/quote]

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