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The protocol of naming infants is far more patriarchal than women changing their name as an adult.  Defaulting to the man's last name for children is PARTICULARLY unfair if a couple with two different last names. and middle names don't count.  No one knows or cares what people's middle names are.

[b]On a side note, I think it's hysterical that a bunch of grown ass women are still holding on to their daddy's name like it was some kind of emblem of feminist power.  Its so weird. 
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Prince was way more successful than ALL Y'ALL and he went by a SYMBOL for awhile.  Get over yourself.  Your career as a mid-level executive, or struggling academic, or non-profit/government G-whatever is not going to merit a chapter in a history book anytime soon, you don't have to be so self-important about your stupid name.  Your identity is far deeper and more complex than your place in the alphabet.  Please, stop making this a "thing" that is supposed to matter. 
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This is willfully misinterpreting what people have written. I posted above that my primary reason for keeping my name is practical, though I also don't see why I should be the default to change my name as an adult.

It might have been my father's last name when I was born, but 30 years later it was the name I had gone by and published work under for my whole life. My parents selected my first name together, but 40 years later it's my name, not theirs. Heck, DD is 5 and her first name is hers, even though I've wanted to give a daughter her first name for as long as I can remember.[/quote]

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