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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]One day you will be your MIL, op. And your kids will learn that you kick grandma out at 9:30pm, no matter what. Keep that in mind.[/quote]
That’s fine because I’d leave before then and/or try to plan more alone time with my child. Or, I’d be happy to take what I could get and not complain or make it an issue. Because I know. I’ve been on the receiving end.[/quote]
That's what we all think when we are young, like you. All of us, then, we get old. My own mom wrote a cook book to me when I got married and on it she wrote, "never, ever live with his or your parents." She lived with my grandma and it was hell for her. Fast forwards, she says that was just for DH's parents and well, she is old now...so things are different. One night a week, or one per two weeks is really not bad, show some compassion. DH and I talk all the time how we will try not to become like my mom and his dad, but will we really not repeat what they are doing? Just saying, don't be so smug that you won't act like she does, or something else might upset your own kids. If we all learned from what we experienced there wouldn't be any issues today between moms and kids, and ILS and relatives, right? But, we don't, so on and on it goes. As you grow old, you also learn not to worry about small issues like this. Your MIL doesn't care if you are in your pjs, or showering, you are kind to do the bed time on your own so they can chat, and your dh is willing to make a bit of a compromise. Maybe next Monday, you tell DH, he and MIL will do the bed time and you will go to gym? Why not?[/quote]

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