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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are people that damn sensitive and insecure that a small simple gesture demonstrating care about a person’s safety and well-being is seen as some boundary intrusion and insult to their supposed independence and maturity?????
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This is what I don't get though--how is asking someone else to do something (to text you when they get home) = a "gesture demonstrating care about a person's safety"?

I can see how texting your anxious parents to let them know you are OK is a kind gesture TO THEM in that it may temporarily soothe their anxiety, even though logically it does not make anyone safer. But it does not make any sense to say that ASKING someone to do something FOR YOU constitutes you making a kind gesture TO THEM. [/quote]

Because it is not about anxiety in many instances. Perhaps PPs who have a negative reaction to this had intrusive, anxious parents; in that context, their reaction makes sense. My mom isn’t anxious or meddling so I have no issue with texting her that I’ve arrived safely. I love her and this small action to give her peace of mind reflects that, and the caring nature of our relationship.

And on my end, when I ask her to text me when she gets home, it’s for the same reason — it gives me peace of mind and I care about her well-being. My request for her to text me reflects that. It’s an expression of love and care that I never stopped and thought about or analyzed because it’s such a small thing.[/quote]

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