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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here again--this really blew up!  I appreciate getting so much helpful feedback!

I wanted to clarify that I am not a doctor and I make a fraction of what an MD makes (50% at best).  We make enough to afford bimonthly cleaners and this has been a longstanding discussion/argument between me and DH.  At this point, I don't feel I have it in me to go another round.

Also, I have definitely considered after care many, many times and what has held me back is that I negotiated my current schedule with the understanding that this would be a 40 hr/week arrangement.  I have really resented the job creep and the fact that I work far more than 40 hours, hence have resisted trying to get into aftercare.  But that said, it's a moot point for the next 6 months bc there is already a wait list at our school.

I did sign kids up for enrichment 1 day/week which means I don't have to run out of work every single day, starting next month, and am hoping to use that time to catch up as much as possible.

I mentioned in a prior post that DH does all of our laundry (mine included), makes dinner on weekends, runs/empties the dishwasher some mornings...I agree that I do more, but he's stepped it up.  We do online grocery ordering, Amazon Prime, and takeout once a week.

I am definitely looking into more meal prep on weekends!  And I wish I could say that I look amazing but the 5 days a week of working out is much more for my sanity than my body :) [/quote]

They should be in aftercare regardless of whether you negotiate a 40 hr-week schedule.  You agreeing to do a radically early flex time in order to pick them up from school is only screwing yourself over -- you don't get a part-time job OR childcare.  40  hrs is fulltime.  You shouldn't attempt to work full time AND do childcare.  [/quote]

+1 And you are also screwing over your kids in your attempt to be superwoman. At 2nd and 5th grade, they'll do better with 90-120 hours of aftercare with their peers than plopped in front of a tv while their mom is stressed out and trying to work.[/quote]

At their ages, they don't need to be in front of the TV even if at home.  They can read, play, do homework ... [/quote]

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