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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. He’s 10 and he couldn’t attend last week because we both had work obligations that held us over. He was stuck at SACC. A team mage’s mom was going to grab him from SACC, but they couldn’t release him without a signed note from us. So he had to miss. If he doesn’t practice, he can’t play because he wasn’t there to learn the plays. It’s a CYO basketball team.

Thanks for all the opinions. I’m leaving it up to DH to decide what he needs to do, but I think DS should show up for his team. He’s been a part of the team for 2 years now, and basketball has been going on for months. We only found out about MIL dinner over the weekend. [/quote]

Next time, DH needs to get ahead of this by inviting her to special dinner the weekend before, and calling or visiting day of. If she knew he was proactively planning something nice for her, she’d be more flexible about timing. She had to plan her own dinner?[/quote]

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This is exactly it! It's not like her birthday is a surprise--why did your DH not proactively think about it, look at the calendar/see the sports conflict, and make a plan?

Instead, it was, what, a few days out, and she had heard nothing from her son or from you. So she knew that none of you had made plans for her birthday. So she decided when and where she wanted to celebrate.

If you guys had thought this through, you could have called her very early on, and cheerfully suggested a plan. "Mom, we're excited about your birthday! We're all free the Sunday before, so we made reservations at that place French you love in Georgetown. Can we pick you up at 6?"[/quote]

Great post, PP.  You're spot on.  Both OP and her DH failed on this one.  Now OP is casting shade on her MIL, which seems to be a popular sport here on DCUM.

OP and her husband need to get their act together.  Like, really, OP, you didn't know that you had to give signed permission for someone other than a parent to get a kid from SACC???  What rock have you been living under?  Sheesh.  No wonder you're posting here![/quote]

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