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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't know if OP is still reading this or not but is there a reason no-one has suggested getting a nanny or au pair for the kids?  Someone to help out during the hours you are working and he's not home?  And to babysit one night a week so you can go out on a date night?[/quote]

Previous poster here.  Usually the nanny/au pair would be a good solution but there were so many issues going on that wouldn’t be addressed by that.  The OP wants to spend more time with her DH and for him to spend more time with the kids and outsourcing wouldn’t help that.  It sounded like when he did have free time he prioritized other things.

Also, anytime someone decides to follow their bliss when they have kids and financial obligations, it unfairly puts the burden on the other person unless there is agreement ahead of time/well thought out plan/timelines involved.  It didn’t sound like the OP’s DH got agreement ahead of time, has a timeline, or has a plan of how financially this puts the family ahead of where he was or had things to help mitigate the extra work this put on his spouse.  While nanny/au pair in theory could help, if he is making even less than before and they spend more on getting extra help, there may have needed to be compromises somewhere else for that to work.[/quote]

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