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[quote=Anonymous]I would not fly in Decent with an unvaccinated newborn unless it was some sort of emergency. So I'm with your wife on that. Sorry, OP. Even if that's not the reason in her mind, it's just not worth the risk.

However, I think you should push back on you taking the 2 year old. He's your son too. Your wife may dislike your parents, but unless she has a good reason to fear for your son's safety around them, she's out of line. They're his family and this is a big family event. I think it's important that he go.

Now, let's say your wife has a legitimate reason (at least in her mind) for not trusting your parents. You should still be able to take your son, and just agree not to leave him alone with your parents. Yes, this means more work for you, but if there was some incident or whatever (and reasonable minds can differ about how bad something may be), that could put her mind at ease. And if you take the 2 year old, your MIL doesn't have to go to your house and she can stay in the wedding city and help out with your son as needed.

In short, I don't think you should take your newborn. But, unless your wife has some reason to doubt your competence as a parent, you should absolutely take the toddler. Talk to your wife about her specific concerns with him going and see if you can't come to a compromise you can both live with.

It's harder to say more without knowing the deal between your wife and parents, or how legitimate her concerns may be, but I'll just throw this out there - if your wife is pregnant, that means she's hormonal. You'll likely get further if you cut her some slack and acknowledge her concerns even if you think she's overreacting. Not to say you should have to play into her overreaction, but she'll probably be more agreeable to you taking the toddler if she feels you're on the same page as her regarding whatever trust issues she has (i.e., you saying you won't leave your son with your parents won't mean much if she feels like you think she's just being petty and so will go ahead and do it anyway).[/quote]

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