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Oh? And as a responsible adult, you don't have to be obedient to authority? And your actions don't have consequences?

When your 20-something kid gets canned for ignoring her boss, you know who to blame.

Part of being a "self-directed adult" is knowing that rocks will fall on your head if you don't direct yourself properly. The teenager here hasn't gotten that message yet, and therefore still needs external direction combined with penalties for failure to comply with direction.[/quote]

As a responsible adult, is this the reason you do what people in authority tell you to do: because the people in authority will punish you if you don't? Maybe it is. But I don't like authoritarianism; not in the government, not in in my workplace, and not in my family.[/quote]

I do what needs to be done without the threat of punishment because I know that if it ever got to the point at work where they had to threaten me with punishment, my career would be over and I might as well find another job. Nevertheless, I am well aware that my employers have the ability to punish me if it comes to that, and this awareness affects my behavior.

Whether or not you dislike "authoritarianism" is irrelevant. Authority exists, in the government, the workplace, and the home. And it is conserved - either you have it , or someone else does. In my home, I am the parent, and that means I have the authority. You are not doing your kids any favors by pretending that authority does not exist and not using the authority you have. You are one of the weak, spineless parents I see all the time who let their kids run wild. No doubt you will be surprised and dismayed when your awful children turn out to be defiant and irresponsible.[/quote]

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