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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it's a common practice in certain cultures and religions, and I do think it's tied to SES. I work in an area with poor and lower middle class African Americans and when someone dies, a monetary collection is always taken up. [/quote]
ohhhhhhh  here we go - the racist troll has found this thread[/quote]
Give me a break. The statement above is not racist and is, in fact, true for my (black) extended family who is lower SES.[/quote]

beyond the SES context, culturally there are differences. I am a black woman (from the Caribbean) and I've gone to funerals of black folk of different SES groups and from different parts of the diaspora.  Giving money in many parts of the diaspora is not considered gauche. Ever watched a Nigerian wedding? Money is literally pinned to the clothing of the bride and groom and thrown to their feet as they dance. This is true in some middle eastern cultures. It isn't just about the financial need of the family.

Anyway my point is even for upper middle class black families giving money isn't considered "poor taste" but would be less likely b/c there is no obvious economic need so gift card and gifts made toward a foundation in honor of deceased may be more common. . i imagine this is true for other groups as well. [/quote]

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