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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You don’t like her, OP. We get it. [/quote]

It may not be about not liking her but the child doesn't live there and is a visitor.  Child is there to spend time with Dad, not babysit and depending on her mother, OP may get an earful.  I didn't let my husband's kids babysit.  They are there to spend time with Dad, not be our child care.  Same for friends teenage kids who visit now.  Those kids offer but they are there to spend time with all of us, not be babysitters.[/quote]

Children are not visitors. This is such poisonous language. And equating your children (which  is what you should think about your husband's children from any marriage) to friends' teenage kids is appalling. They are there to spend time with their FAMILY which is not just dad and CERTAINLY includes SIBLINGS. [/quote]

Yes, they are if they are not there 50/50.  You can try as hard as you want but they are visitors if they are there just a few days a month.  My husband's kids were visitors in our home when mom would actually allow them to come.  We'd spend a fortune in court and on plane tickets, she'd refuse and judge would just tell her to send them next time with no consequences.  They were absolutely visitors.  I wouldn't expect them to do anything in our home, including care for our kids.  Its not their job.   They are our kids and our responsibility.  No 13 year old wants to spend a snow day with a sick 4 year old.[/quote]

I was that child and my stepmother didn't treat me like a visitor. You're a piece of crap. You should have done that, you should have made them feel like they were a part of the family, because that is what they were.[/quote]

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