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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do not leave my dear spouse because I love them with all my heart, honestly.  We met and fell in love when we were young and had nothing, then built a happy, successful, and rich life together.  We have a big family and several decades of love, shared experiences, friends, memories, passion, and happiness together.

Why would I willingly or easily surrender all of that to an AP who may in no small part be attracted to my spouse for their name (well known in their profession), connections, and wealth? ( My spouse has already admitted to working to advance AP's career, and AP has requested their advice and help.)  I will fight for my spouse, and our children's parent with all my heart and every ounce of strength I have because I really love them.[/quote]

I am not against staying but your last paragraph shows you are going to fail in your attempt to "fix this". You are blaming yourself and your actions. You list all the things you will do to "fix it".

But you are not the person that can fix it. Because the "it" that needs to be fixed is your H and he needs to fix himself.

Here is the paragraph... it's sad and pathetic because I think a therapist is probably walking you down a very bad path.

,[i] I now work on our marriage every day, I communicate more verbally and physically, I am kinder and nicer, and I never take anything for granted. I also promised myself and DS that I never tell our children about the infidelity. I understand that DS needs to grieve the loss of this affair. At the same time I am nervous because DS and their AP are scheduled to be at two upcoming conferences. But I will trust my spouse, because no marriage can grow stronger with suspicion or jealousy.[/i]

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