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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I really appreciate some of these comments because they left me an older person feeling extra special. I also makes $20.00 an hour, and I am so happy in my skin, life but most of all I love my job and wouldn't trade it for all the tea in China. However, this job is coming to an end next month. And since I was told of the end date I have gone on endless interviews but no one would hire me. Some feels $20.00 an hour is too much to pay for my experiences. Or because it's my age, maybe they feel that I don't have the energy to do the job. I really don't know why I am not getting hired for the job which I am capable of doing wonderfully. And like the last person's comment as long as you love what you are doing where you went to school or what degrees you have doesn't matter.

I know a lady who has a very high paying job, she made more money than her husband at that time, he is also highly educated as she is. She was very unhappy going to work doing the same thing everyday, and not liking her boss.

Once I asked her why wouldn't she change her job if she was so unhappy. She told me that this is all she knew how to do and that she didn't know where to go from there.

Sometime you have to stop looking at where you went to school/college or what degrees you may have and go for what make you happy. That is all that matters when the day is done....... your happiness.   [/quote]

You are in la la land. Whether you have kids or not, your happiness is not all that matters. Peace of mind, possibly yes that matters. But happiness? No. This is especially true if you have kids. Their well being and adequate provisioning trumps your happiness. Your own well being and provisioning trumps your happiness. If you don't earn enough as an adult to put food on the table and a safe reliable roof over your head, then kids or not, your happiness in a low paying job won't mean anything.

OP, I was in your shoes several years ago, in my early 30s. I had a great education, great lucrative early career that was growing, made great money. Then I got engaged, had a child and stepped back from my career, for years. It was okay for a while, and I took low paying jobs in other fields I had always been curious about, but that lifestyle was not fulfilling or joyful to me. I struggled with having a low income (and became a single parent during this time).

When I was ready to ramp my career back up, it was an uphill battle but it improved my self-esteem tremendously. There have been trade offs. I have to commute, I'm mentally exhausted sometimes when I get home, but I feel better about myself nowadays. I'm back in my career field, and I enjoy it. My career has grown a lot since I got back into it. I enjoy earning more and more money every year and being able to easily afford the activities my child likes to do. I love being able to easily take the trips and do the travel that me and my child like to do. I enjoy the feedback and interaction I get from my peers and management at work, and I enjoy networking with others in my industry.

I have no shame admitting that my career and earning a good living is an important part of who I am. My career and income doesn't completely define me, but I do get satisfaction in nurturing and growing it and reaping the rewards. That has contributed (among other things, like the people in my life) to making me an overall happy person.

I don't think you should feel any shame around admitting that you want to earn more money and ramp up your career. Men do this every day and they are certainly never chastised for it, even if they have kids! I think it's great to have goals, and if that's your goal, start working towards it today. Do not let American society pigeonhole you into a lifestyle you do not want.[/quote]

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