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[quote=Anonymous]Am I the only one rolling my eyes bc 30 is soooo young to be a provider? Guys used to do that at 18 back in the day with wives who didn't work at all. But of course to MIL, he'll always be her baby boy.

As for specifics, I think DH is bothered which is the only reason he said anything to MIL about it (and maybe it wasn't even specific - maybe it was just - mom it's been so stressful lately, everything is so expensive) AND yelled at you when you brought it up. You need to sit down with him calmly -- NOT bring up MIL -- but talk to him about how he's feeling about bills/finances and then if you get the sense he is stressed, work together to come up with another plan. It may make him feel better if he is ALSO able to save -- which he isn't able to right now bc he pays 90% of the necessary bills. I understand the income disparity but if he brings in 3/4 of the income, and you bring in 1/4 -- couldn't you pay 1/4 of the bills, he pays 3/4? Either by listing out the bills and divide by %; or open a new joint account where you put in 1/4 of monthly expense dollars, he puts in 3/4 and then he goes and pays the bills with that joint money. That'll free up some $ for him to put into a 401k or savings as well/use as fun money etc.[/quote]

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