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[quote=Anonymous]NP; 9:25 and 15:53 above have good points.  Also take the argument for getting local doctors just a step further with your DW and FIL.  If FIL actually has a medical emergency, they will send him to a local hospital.  If he doesn’t have a local doctor, he will get whomever gets assigned to him. They won’t be sending him to NYC and he may not be in any condition to travel at that point, or even be in a condition to be able to choose a doctor.  It will be far better if he chooses someone local and builds a relationship now.

I think you can also ask to brainstorm with your DW ways to streamline and make the caregiving more efficient and less stressful for both of you.  Maybe it would be better for DW to set up a regular schedule for visiting FIL.  If FIL wants her to buy him some groceries, she shouldn’t feel she has to drop everything just to do that right away.  Add it to your own grocery list and she can deliver them on her next trip, or use Peapod to deliver to him.  Find out what services the assisted living offers and use them as much as possible, because FIL is probably still paying for them.  Maybe hire some outside help to do housework and run errands for the two of you.  And you can ask your DW for a standing date night, so the two of you have time to talk and catch up with each other weekly.

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