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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi Op. I would feel the same way as you. There was no reason they couldn't call or text as a courtesy to let you or your DH know they would be arriving much earlier than planned. However, to keep the peace, I think this is something DH will have to address. [/quote]

I wouldn't start a war over this but I would definitely talk to them about it rather than assuming they understand your boundaries. [/quote]

Arriving much earlier than planned (when it's a 4 hour drive and you arrive 6 hours ahead of schedule) is almost certainly not the "emergency" that OP had in mind when she gave them a key for emergencies only. They should hang out in TJs for the day, if they choose to leave their house at the crack of dawn. OP isn't obligated to let them into her house earlier than the agreed upon time (whether she's there or not, working or relaxing, whatever) and she also has the right to not be surprised in her own home. What if she was doing something that she didn't want people to see? Her ILs are terribly rude, and I'd have DH talk to them about not arriving early again as a matter of respect for other people's time, but also change the lock so they can't accidentally forget common courtesy again.[/quote]

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