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[quote=Anonymous]I see it both ways... and if parents or ILs offer and you know they can afford it, that's fine.  The only thing that gets me is the sense of entitlement about it.  The OP's question would be one I never asked because it sounds to me that OP "expects" her family to pay.  That is the slippery slope for me.  My parents busted their hump for 40 years, put 3 kids through college and made the first contribution to our kids' college accounts.  My IL's and my dad are doing fine financially and, until recent health setbacks, they were coming to see us twice a year on their own dime (we pay for his meals and entertainment).  Now that they are older, I believe it is on us to make visits to them a priority - right along with the other priorities we have.  That means that we care enough about visiting them to plan and budget for it. Priorities run both ways.  Whether you can can afford it or you need help, it SHOULD be a priority to visit your family when you can.  It should not always be dependent on who is paying  Think about one thing.  We are all trying to raise our families and create lifestyles for ourselves.  But I realized when my mom passed suddenly, that these folks are getting older and you will regret passing up opportunities to visit.  Don't let "who pays" debates be your lasting regret.

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