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[quote=Anonymous]My son, his wife and baby, my daughter, husband and I went down for Thanksgiving.  We have all grown close.  The sisters in laws are all amazing and  brothers/their kids and grandkids are just a blessing to know and love.  My son/his family and my husband had never met them.  It was an enjoyable and blessed time for all.

I know that not all DNA/birth family/life changed by DNA test events turn out as a happy ending.  In my case, I have been gifted with more people to love and be loved by.  I have found best friends and connectiveness to people that I identify with in so many ways.  This does not change my relationship to the family that I grew up with.  I love them all very much.  What this does give me, however, is not a family to replace, but something more like God saying, "but wait, there's more!" God has given us all plenty of space in our hearts to be capable of loving many.

This has given me compassion for those that perhaps have never known their birth family and are searching.  It has made me thankful that I had a wonderful dad that I grew up with.

Yes, to be sure, it rocked my world and messed with my mind thinking that the dad that I've always known is technically my "step-dad."  This does not fit my definition, however.  "Dad" is something earned, a title for one that loves, cares for and brings up a child.  I loved my dad very  much, my world was turned upside down when he died this year.

People make mistakes and that is ok.  I am not ashamed of my origin.  God gave me a wonderful family on every side.  The most important thing, I think, when dealing with DNA/family issues like this is to have plenty of grace, forgiveness and understanding.  It's important to be ok with whatever the outcome is because the most important fact is that I (you) are here and that is world changing.  It is ok to spend time trying to figure out "who you are" in relation to family.  However, it can be all-consuming of your thoughts and time.  Remember to be who you have become and not forsake those in your life that truly love you.  My prayers are with any that read this because either they are searching themselves or have loved ones that are.

I hope that this may be a help to just one person, that it can give them hope and comfort, knowing that they are not alone.  [/quote]

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