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NP. If you're going to ask other posters to provide cites for their statements, you should do the same for yours. Obviously this is anecdotal, but I have 19 friends who had babies in the past two years, and zero of them had PTSD or any ongoing physical issues (probably around 2/3 were vaginal and 1/3 c-section). All were in their 30s. I find your 25% figure difficult to believe. And pointing out that someone's experience was not the norm does not invalidate it in any way.[/quote]

Np...19 and not ONE with significant issues with birth/recovery?? I find that incredulous based on my group of friends, all mid thirties, healthy.  Of about 10 in my circle in the past few years, 4-5 experienced lasting difficulties:  one had extreme ppd (suicidal thoughts), 2 describe feeling ptsd from traumatic (48 hr+) births with midwives, one of those has ongoing physical recovery issues; another had an emergency premature c which left her with ptsd/nightmares.  One experienced late onset ppd that contributed to a divorce.  They all worked through it and are amazing moms, though.  Fwiw c-sec vs vag didn't seem to matter, but the worst seemed the ones with the longest labors, who I suspect would have been better off with switching to a c after 24 hrs max.  I personally only pushed for a few hours but it took me a month to fully recover muscle control enough to stop my pee mid- stream.  Luckily that was my only lasting issue (which really freaked me out.)
Look, there's a lot that's not in our control with childbirth and it's a major medical event full of hormonal fluctuations.  The best you can hope for is a reasonable, attentive ob and nurses.  Openness to adjusting our best laid birthplans as things progress & seeking out help when we need it are the best tips I can offer, from what I've seen in my group. [/quote]

Plenty of them had issues with the delivery - tearing, epidurals not working correctly, weird reaction to the epidural, blood pressure or heart rate spiking, significant blood loss, pre-eclampsia manifesting right after birth, temporary postpartum anxiety, etc. But none of them had any ongoing mental or physical issues that didn't clear up within a month or two. I agree with your overall assessment though. It's important to be flexible and to have attentive, observant medical practitioners around you. [/quote]

I'm not doubting you, but as someone with lots of postpartum issues I don't go around advertising them to my 20 closest girlfriends. And at least 4 of my friends in their early to mid thirties all leak now when they cough or sneeze, several have back issues, and a few have confessed that their vaginas and sex lives are not the same. Just because no one has told you what they are dealing with doesn't mean everything is peachy keen. There is a lot of shame and stigma with pelvic floor disorders and most people just don't talk about them. [/quote]

The vast (vast) majority of pelvic floor dysfunction is because of pregnancy itself, not method of delivery. It is also generally treatable! Consult a specialist physical therapist, you don't have to live like that  [/quote]

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