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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Something doesn't add up here.

OP has been with this guy for 3 years.  And he was happy enough with her to get engaged 6 months ago.

Surely, OP hasn't suddenly become a nag just in the last 6 months.

Whether OP is a nag or not is irrelevant.  This guy was fine with her 6 months ago and knew her for 2.5 years at that time.  So he knew what she is like and still got engaged.

OP didn't change.  Something else does.

My guess is that the guy met someone else and is having doubts about getting married and is using the nagging as an excuse.

That is not to suggest OP shouldn't work on herself if she believes she nags people.  But I would caution OP in thinking that she is going to win back this guy b/c I'm not convinced nagging is the issue.[/quote] Hi, Op here.  We moved in together in April and it seems that things have been challenging since then.  We have our great times, he actually is a very good partner with housework, clean up etc. It seems to me that he is forgetting to consider me when he makes plans. He goes out with his friends, every weekend on a Friday or Saturday and just makes the plans without asking me prior if we have anything going on. Doesn't come home when he says, will just go to the gym. I will have dinner ready for our normal time, and he will come home 1 hour later saying that he was still at work, or went to the gym, or grabbed a drink with a buddy. He buys tickets to sporting events or concerts to attend with his buddies and doesn't ask me if I want to go or even mention it prior to make sure that we don't have anything going on. So, basically he said that my nagging is around not trusting him or giving him the freedom he needs.  The most recent example was buying a ticket to attend a concert with a bunch of his buddies. He just did it, didn't mention it or say anything to me (which means he didn't invite me either). It's the same weekend my friend is getting married, I'M IN THE WEDDING, and he's known about this date for a long time.  When I reminded him of this, he said he forgot and was sorry, but that since he doesn't know them, that I should be ok going without him. WHAT? So, I gave him a hard time. This is not right, he said that I hassle and nag him about stuff whenever he makes plans without me.  That's the sum of our problem. I do give him a hard time when he does all this stuff. Maybe I should approach it differently with him, not in an accusatory way, a few I have let go and haven't said anything because we didn't have plans anyways, we were just hanging at home that weekend, so it didn't affect other plans. So, yes every time he makes plans without checking with me (out of common courtesy) I give him a hard time, and every time this happens, I give him an even harder time, aka higher level nagging. [/quote]

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