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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Admit"???? As in, confess to a crime?

I would absolutely tell him the first time I meet him. We come as a package deal, and I'm proud of my kids.
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Oh dear, rereading that, it sounds horrible! I love my child more than anything, I just want this guy to get to know me for me first. Does that make sense?[/quote]

[b]I don't really get it - if you having a kid would be a deal-breaker, why is it better for him to find out later rather than sooner?[/b]

I agree with whoever said drop it in to conversation but don't make a big deal out of it.

Me, I can't imagine being in the dating world and not talking about my kids.  And I would take it as a red flag if I ever met a guy who had kids and didn't mention it quickly, at least by 2nd date (although I'd probably ask on 1st date, because it's very relevant to the bigger picture).[/quote]

She thinks that if he "gets to know her for her first" he will be so besotted that, if he had previously not wanted to date a woman with a child, he'll change his mind.

OP, it is so massively unfair to put him in the awkward position of being in the middle of a great date, then, upon being told that his date actually has one of the qualities that are a hard no for him, having to put up with the awkwardness of sitting with this person he's been flirting with all night and having to either a. be the "bad guy" and tell her why the air has changed, or b. try to end the date and then then email/tell her over the phone.  It is emotional blackmail, and it is a pathetic woman's trick.  And I say this as a woman.[/quote]

That's ridiculous PP.  If a woman with a kid is such a deal-breaker to him, he should have had in his ad (or said when he and OP first started talking) that women with a kid are a definite NO for him if that's how he feels.  It's ridiculous to make OP feel bad about making him uncomfortable just because she brings up something important to her to share.  She's not responsible for how he handles it, although if he handled it the way you describe that would be great info for OP that he should be a mega NO for her as well.[/quote]

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