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Sex life, there is none. My wife has pretty much stopped having sex with me and when we do it sucks because I am unattractive to her. I am starting to think that she has some real negative associations with sex with men like me to whom she is not attracted. Won't let me give oral, only likes sex in one position, has to be a regimented approach to it. I have asked her about it but she says that its "just the way she is with you". In retrospect it was always kind of like that after the first few months off good, hot sex, but I thought it was just kind of a random thing not at all associated with me degenerating into a boring beta provider......until I found this forum looking for daycare options for my kids  We are good parents and roomates but at this point I don't really think of her like my wife. Any conversation around sex escalates into her crying and saying she is a bad wife because she cannot force herself to be attracted to a boring unattractive man. I am one time away from saying yep, you are. FYI we have three children under 3 so yes, I am a very involved husband in rearing and housework simply becuase there is no choice, but her behavior pre-dated the kids so that's not it. Otherwise its a great marriage.

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Your problem: she is not attracted to you 
 Your solution: be more attractive

OP here. Thanks for this. I don't think I have changed a lot has since our marriage, maybe my wife does? Sure life is more boring becuase we have three kids but the sex dropped off before kids. I get this advice as it is the most prevalent on here, and probably true, but I guess its tough becuase I don't feel I have really changed all that much since we were dating and had good, hot sex. Our life circumstance has for sure, but I have not. Flame away

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Are you taking her out on dates and to do fun things from time to time?  That could do a lot towards making you more attractive.  [/quote]

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