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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No discussion to ultimatum...ugh, no thank you. Cut your losses now. And I say this as a woman. She is too immature to have a good long term relationship with. [/quote]

Sadly, I'm afraid I'm going to have to. I understand her feelings, but she doesn't seem to understand mine.[/quote]

You just wanted to have fun for how long? A year of dating as single parents (in one's late 30s) is a very long time. You don't sound like you want to marry her. But if I were her, I'd be pissed you never intended to marry me.[/quote]

Different PP.  Why should she be angry?  He was clear with her from the start that he wasn't looking for anything serious.

I don't know why women do this -- except that they think they can "change" men if they just play along with the "it's just casual" for a while.   If a man is honest from the start that he is not looking for anything serious, then take him at his word.

Maybe he never wants to marry again.  There's actually nothing wrong with that.  People can have a casual relationship for YEARS.  My grandmother did.  She divorced at 40 and had no interest in doing the whole marriage thing again -- ever.  But she still wanted companionship.

I'm happily married.  But I don't think marriage is for everyone -- for different reasons.  I think part of the reason why the divorce rate is so high is that so many people feel like marriage has to be the next logical step, that it has to be the ultimate "goal" of all relationships.  There is this mistaken belief that you are "wasting your time" if you are just with someone for the companionship, which seems absurd to me.   OP was clear with this woman.  Sure, they developed feelings for each other, and it's fine for her to say that she has changed her mind about what she wants and ask if he's open to working toward marriage and even to tell him that if he isn't open to those things, then it might be best to move on.  But I don't think she has anything to be angry with him about.  But to suddenly get angry and make demands is really juvenile.[/quote]

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