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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If your infant takes a 2-hr am nap and a 2-hr pm nap, and sleeps like 11-12 hours a night, then your infant is only awake 9 hours a day.  All these folks saying, well my nanny only spent 3-4 waking hours with my kid...I mean, I get that "3" and "4" sound like small numbers, but it is a full 30-40% of your child's waking hours.  That's of course a meaningful difference in what you could be spending if you stayed home (and again, that's assuming you have a very good napper).

I'm a FT working mom, btw.  [/quote]

There are 168 hours in a week. 
Infants are awake for 63 of those hours. 
I see my kids 48 of those hours, you see your kid 63 of those hours.
I see my kids 28% of the time, you see your kids 37% of the time. 
It's 23% of their waking time... 15 hours.

Thanks for pointing out how little actual time is spent "raising" your kids.... lol 37% of your time. [/quote]

Well, first, like I said, I'm a FT working mom.  My kids are in ES now, but when my oldest was an infant we had a nanny.  I was gone from 8 to 4.  This DD actually was a "unicorn" napper who took an am nap from 9-11 and a pm nap from 1:30 to 3:30.  So I missed out on 3.5 waking hours of time with my DD M-F.  A lot of PPs (you included) think that is a small amount, but I don't think it is percentage wise.  It was like a full third to almost 40% of her 9 waking hours each weekday!  No one is raising their kids during their sleeping hours -- those 9 hours are all we have to work with and all that matter for this dicussion.  I missed out on a bit more than a third to 40% of them each day.  It's a lot to me.  (With my second I had a WFH job which meant my younger DD was with a nanny or later daycare more like 9 to 3:30, and I felt much better about that percentage of time away.)  But I guess it's all personal...[/quote]

What you are missing are the waking hours SAHM's are not watching their kids. That isn't even taken into account. How often did you get home from work and say to your H - tag you are it I need a break and how many SAHM's don't take any break when their H gets home.

The reality is they are spending less time in the evening because they have help - that's a good thing. They've been with their child all day and they will give the care over to their H.

and

You are not using that time to not be with your child because you were away during the day.

So if you took actual hour.. it's equal.[/quote]

Please stop embarrassing yourself.  It's not equal, and that's not what routinely happens in most SAHM households.  But even if it were...I though this thread was about having paid caregivers raise/partially raise your kids.  A father, OTOH, spending evenings with his children sounds wonderful; who in the world thinks otherwise?[/quote]

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