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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Acting shocked that your dating a Latino is a great example of how insular and ignorant progressives tend to be. They have some ridiculous caricatured image of conservatives in their heads that doesn't come close to matching the reality for most people, and because they frequently don't get out of their extremely sheltered bubble of group think, they don't have the opportunity to learn about other people from actual experience. [/quote]

☝️yes, this[/quote]

I'm white and married a Latino guy and we've been married for 25 years. My progressive friends and family embraced it while the conservatives in my life have been very lukewarm about it and some have shunned it (my father actually stopped speaking to me and never saw my daughter. Never once. She is now 22. My brother once said that MAYBE he'd consider having us over. He didn't know because he's never had a black man in his house and would have to think it over). My husband is a C-Level executive at a major corporation and out earns all of my cousins' spouses and partners and yet at family functions he is spoken to like he's a day laborer by the conservatives in my family while the progressives are completely interested in him and engage him in intellectual conversation (and not that there is anything wrong with being a day laborer but they literally seem to think he hangs out in the Home Depot parking lot looking for construction jobs). Additionally, before we married, it was my conservative circle of friends who kept asking if he was here legally and did he have a green card. One even insisted I show her his birth certificate. I'm pretty middle-of-the-road, with probably more conservative-leaning tendencies but I've definitely seen a divide with how folks react to him and to our marriage. He actually leans more conservative as he was raised in a conservative Catholic household and even that doesn't gain him any traction with the Evangelicals in my family. I've learned to largely ignore it but overall when I do think about it, it seems I've had a different experience here with how progressives and conservatives have reacted. To the husband's credit, he seems to take everything in stride and never seems to get annoyed at reminding my uncle during Thanksgiving that he has no idea how to fix the hole in his drywall.

Can progressives be performative? Sure. But everyone can be. Maybe it's more a people issue than a side-of-the-aisle issue though. There are good people everywhere doing good work. Some of the time you never even know it because they don't talk about it. [/quote]

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