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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Step parents are evil.[/quote]

Both my biological sister and I moved in with our mom and step father at different points in our 20s. He welcomed us like his own children. Some step parents are great.

The op of this thread though, not so much. 
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It works better when it's a mom and stepfather because women often carry the burden of running a household.  If you bring in an adult kid whom the woman has no authority to 'parent' and whose father is unwilling to 'parent', then you have a situation that will fail 98/100 times.  Meaning, all the extra housework, cooking, cleaning, parking issues (see other thread about the emergency physican whose adult stepkid blocks her in the driveway and she sometimes needs to make hospital runs in the middle of the night) become issues because (i) dad is unwilling to set rules and (ii) his wife has no authority to set rules in her own house.

Also, in a nuclear family with an adult child, you may have 30 years of goodwill and shared priorities around your adult children and grandchildren.  In a second marriage, you may only have a few years of history, and they may have been fraught with conflicts like this one.  So, a 27-year-old moving home might be enough to trigger a divorce.  But a divorce isn't necessarily a bad thing - sometimes it clears the way for more peace for all parties.  More often than not, the women I know who remarried would be better off single.  Marriage is generally a bad deal for women, but the issues are amplified later in life when there's almost no upside to a second marriage for women.  [/quote]

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