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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I only have daughters (and only had sisters too) and they are teens now. And yes in our experience most girls are at worst mean and catty and at best just not thoughtful. There are a few nice ones but they are very hard to identify and in high demand as friends. The remaining girls tend to be anti-social (want to read at recess, only want to discuss very limited subjects, don't want to hang out or do things outside of school, or the parents don't let them.)

I'm hoping college is a better experience for them.[/quote]

Your description of "anti-social" girls is off. That's just a girl who knows who she is and is okay hanging out on her own. Those are actually good qualities. It's just irritating to you during the awkward, anxious jockeying for friends that tweens engage in, because you want these kids to hang out with your kid, who may be less discerning about friends and just want someone to hang out with. Which is also fine, and can also be a good quality to serves her well..

But I'd like to discourage people from thinking that any child who doesn't hit it off with your kid or doesn't want to be friends with your kid is "mean" or "anti-social." Are you friends with literally every woman your age in your general vicinity? I am not. It's okay for kids to have preferences, to sometimes choose to be alone rather than play with someone whose interests are different than theirs, or to have niche interests that excite them even if it's not what everyone is doing.[/quote]

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