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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a parent of an only child and for me, one child is the limit of what I can do given I WOH. I love the bond I have with my child. I love the smile she gets on her face when we snuggle in bed. I love being able to focus on her. My DH is very loving and involved, but we are both low energy. If I didn't suffer from fertility issues we would probably have considered having another, but in some ways I think it is fate that I physically can't.

At the same time, it's true that with two parents and one child, we're often not super efficient parents. I do catch myself trying to do too much for her. I recently had to solo parent for a few days and it was eye opening how I realized that in some ways it was easier  because it helped me focus on what really needed to be done. And how much DH and I sometimes get in the way of one another.

So I don't think it's totally accurate that 4 children get half as much parenting as 2 children. I think there are efficiencies with multiple children. But it's also very common for it to be outsourced to the eldest child. My mother is the oldest of 7 and she definitely feels her parents didn't really parent her youngest siblings, they just had their oldest children do it. I am one of 2 and I don't think my mom wishes she had more.[/quote]

Adding that if we had had a second, it's highly unlikely we would have been able to intervene so early in a behavioral issue DD had that can easily be treated at a young age but becomes very ingrained pretty quickly if you don't act fast.[/quote]

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