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[quote=Anonymous]Woah. He's 4 and obviously going through a tough patch. I really hope this is a troll.

If you must, bag up Jo's toys and put them in the basement for a while, but do you really expect that rocking a preschoolers world is going to lead to better behavior? The typical wisdom is that kids will behave worse when they feel their world is unstable, and a kid who has everything he cares about taken away is going to feel unstable. It sounds like you've been bouncing from one strategy to another in disciplining him already which is probably already contributing to his upheaval. Sticking with one thing that is an immediate consequence, and not raving like a crazy person, will set him up much better for success. Sounds like you and your son both have a flare for dramatic manipulation when you are frustrated and don't know the best strategy to respond. Reflect on that some.

My kids typicality are at their worst after routines have been disrupted (thanksgiving?) and definitely have gone through testing phases. Sounds like you've got either that on your hands, in which case time, consistency, and routine are in your best interest or a kid who struggles with impulse control or other issues (perhaps including inconsistent parenting) and you'd be wise to do your homework and find a method (e.g. Kazdin) that really helps those kids who struggle with that.[/quote]

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