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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kids are well adjusted post-divorce. I think there were two keys:

One is that very soon after we told them, things changed and we went right into the new routine. Less than a week. So they didn't have to spend a lot of time worrying about how things would be different, there wasn't months of being in flux. We got all our ducks in a row - telling the kids was literally the last thing we did.

Two is that they see us getting along. We both go to school things, birthday parties, etc. When he drops the kids off it's not awkward if they ask him to come in to show him how they rearranged their bedroom or want his help with a school project. [/quote]

That's great but your divorce will impact your kid long after their birthday party and school project days are over. I'm not saying you were wrong to get divorced, because divorce is the right and best option in many cases, but the impact lasts beyond the elementary years.[/quote]

Thanks. I'm aware of that, what with two of my kids having already graduated from college. Just because something impacts someone it doesn't mean it impacts them negatively. [/quote]

My mom would say and has said the same thing about me and my siblings what she didn't know because we didn't tell her were the issues we all had with dating, the fears  of committing to a relationship, planning weddings, holidays, grandchildren's birthdays, visits, caring for ageing parents, the list goes on and on. Yes on the surface we are all " Well adjusted"  we've graduated college, have steady jobs, and spouses, our parents aren't at each other's throats, we get along with the step parents, but the impact is still there.
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