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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I always feel sad when I read posts like yours, OP.  It's more important for you to be right than it is to live in a happy, healthy marriage.  When you get married you merge families. Your DH's parents are part of your family now.  Why are you keeping score on who is doing more in your marriage? You are supposed to be a team.

I've been married for 30 years. I've watched lots of marriages fail. In every singe case, the wife sounded exactly like you.  If you continue this type of thinking, you will end up divorced.  Maybe that's ok with you. But I promise you, your DH will not stay married to someone who keeps score, who is on the lookout for any perceived hint of unfair treatment, and who treats his family as less-than. [/quote]

Oh please.  Lots of women work out of the home now.   Quite a few are the primary bread winners.  But in spite of this, women are still held to be responsible for all of this stuff. I say BS.  I used to do all this crap, and then I stopped.  I buy DH's 90+ year old grandmother stuff for X-mas, but I don't for his folks.  He's a 42 grown ass man.  I give him suggestions.  He'll often blow me off, and then at the last possible moment come back to me and ask me which website it is on, and order it.  Done.  We do this for holiday cards and thank you stuff as well.  I organize all the stupid outfits, photographer and get all of us ready for the pictures.  Then I order them so they arrive before the 1st of December.  I provide the list of addresses (since he never updates any of it, including his extended family members, which I don't always have their contact info for), stamps and the ready cards.  He has to address those to his family.  I take care of all of the kids' thank you cards for their birthday presents and from our friends for the holidays and kids' birthdays, etc.[/quote]

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