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[quote=Anonymous]I'll make this short. DH had this girlfriend a long time ago. SIL and her became best friends. SIL and ex had a huge falling out and didn't speak for 6 years. I actually learned of this ex from SIL. One day I was in the car with her and we passed ex's house. SIL says "thats DH's bitch ex girlfriend's house. We were best friends and then one day she started telling people that I called her names and never spoke to me again" I nodded uncomfortably. I got home and asked DH about it. Turns out she's an ex girlfriend from MIDDLE SCHOOL! It's clear that SIL was just being a bitch.

Years go by and I don't hear anything about this "ex".. Then last year out of nowhere her and SIL are best friends again. Okay whatever not my business. Well then SIL started PA trying to start drama. I don't mind this woman. She seems nice enough. She did however end up in the middle of the drama. She began coming to every inlaw event/holiday and one day out of no where SIL says to me that this woman was family and I needed to get over it. I had never mentioned not liking this woman or even given the slightest hint of having a problem with her.

I addressed it with DH and asked if he had said anything to SIL and he said no. He was pissed.

DH was a DuH and sent a message to SIL about "ex girlgirlfriend". He said he was uncomfortable as was I. He told her it wasn't okay to bring an ex girlfriend around and expecting us to make her family. Blah blah blah it ended up being a text that only addressed this woman rather than addressing SIL's bad behavior. DH followed by putting her in a long time out(8 months). In that period he learned how he should have handled it and lost the u.

FF to now. SIL has been on her best behavior. She seems to be trainable at this point. We don't necessarily have a relationship with her but we get along now and see her when we visit PIL's and she is there. She has this new friend we will call C. Well C will soon be SIL's SIL and has been invited to a few things here and there as well as her little girl who is DD's age. We do presents for the entire family so I asked MIL and SIL if anyone else would be at the Christmas celebration. SIL made a strange face/arm reaction and no one answered my question. I only asked because I would feel terrible if I left out a child.

SIL's reaction led me to believe ex(hate even calling her that) will be there. I'm fine with that. I'm fine with her. Not my house, they can invite whoever. So long as SIL doesn't revert back to using this woman to get at me I will remain fine with it. However, no one actually said she was coming and even worse she thinks I hate her.

I don't know if I should just ask MIL again if anyone else is coming or just go to this ex directly and explain. How do I handle this?[/quote]

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