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[quote=Anonymous]My daughter is 6 and has motor planning challenges that impact her speech, fine motor, and gross motor skills.  At age 4, it was mostly clothing and, occasionally, speech therapy that would trigger a meltdown.  The meltdowns have continued, but now they're mostly handwriting related.   At some point we realized that giving her deep pressure contact -- big squeeze hugs, squeezing her feet, weighted blanket, etc. -- calmed her down.  This was a great discovery at age 4, but now at age 6 she still relies on us to help her get past a meltdown.  I guess if I could do it all over again, I'd figure out a way for her to obtain some of that same comfort without relying solely on my husband and me.

When she's in a good mood (not meltdown time) we talk a lot about growth mindset/practice -- not that practice makes perfect but that it helps you make progress.  I tell her stories about how practice has helped her -- like how she had to work for months to learn to say "mama" instead of just "ma" and I'm able to show her old speech practice sheets and now her handwriting journal from age 5 that shows her first attempts at capital letters.  I tell stories of myself trying to learn how to drive, ice skate, etc., as well as things I never practiced and never learned (cartwheel, diving, etc.).  And I'm constantly reminding her that making mistakes is how our brains learn.

I hope this isn't coming across as preachy.  When her meltdowns really became a regular thing, I was desperate for suggestions, so I guess I'm just trying to share what I've collected.  My husband and I ended up taking a parenting class and it was helpful (Dan Shapiro's Challenging Children class).  We still refer back to it for guidance and ideas.  My daughter is such an awesome kid and it is so sad to watch her get so frustrated.  It has, though, gotten a little easier as she's gotten a little older.  I wish you the best![/quote]

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