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[quote=Anonymous]I'm not sure your mom is jealous or competitive.  She might be truly concerned because she has a rigid view and can't understand how another way can be just as good.  Or your choices may challenge her and she might not want to face it.  Personally, I think both working and staying home are equally valid.  But some people can dig in, and sometimes those people are our loved ones.

Seems to me you have choices here.  You could decide to not let this bother you and willingly ignore.  This likely will desensitize you and result in a more distant relationship.  Or you could try to talk to her about how you appreciate her mothering as a child but you have taken another path (which is not changing) and her comments are hurtful.  You would know better than me how she would react.  You should take stock of what will be better for you overall.  I'm sorry you're dealing with this.

To the PP with the hoarder mom - I'm sorry for what you went through and hope you can heal, but it doesn't make OP's problems insignificant.  Everything is relative.  There's always someone worse off.  My mom was / is pretty bad (massive emotional abuse, neglect, constant explicit threats of actual abandonment when I was a child, etc.), but I still know that the pain of a parental rift can be deep even if the actions aren't as extreme.  And I know others have it worse.

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