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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My spouse has been gone for a week.  At first it was difficult, as we have 3 young children, and the extra set of hands is nice. but now I'm really enjoying the time away from him.  No walking on eggshells, no bickering, no worrying about the kids annoying him, or trying to get him out of a bad mood. I feel peace and relief.  He comes back Friday.  I'm kind of dreading it.  
This is not good.[/quote]

I used to like it when he was gone too. A few times a year, a few days each time. Then I realized he was meeting someone in those trips...we are past that now and recovering but every trip is PTSD trigger for me[/quote]

Why did you stay?[/quote]

I stayed because I love him and our family. It didn't happen on every trip. It happened twice. I know that because I know when they met, and when the trips were. They are separated by an ocean, so it's not like they are ducking out on Tuesday nights. He knows he was wrong. We both were in a bad place in our marriage and acknowledge that. Both want to make it work and both have worked hard at it. I have made the decision to keep our family together and am working to rebuild trust. I don't know what the future holds but that strikes me as the best decision for now. I know many will disagree with me and that's OK. You never know how you will react until you are in that situation. I will say he has been very understanding and empathetic about future trips and that has helped. [/quote]

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