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[quote=Anonymous]The silent treatment is abusive.

It is designed to (1) place the abuser in a position of control; (2) silence the target’s attempts at assertion; (3) avoid conflict resolution/personal responsibility/compromise; or (4) punish the target. Often, the result of the silent treatment is exactly what the person who uses it wishes to create: a reaction from the target and a sense of control.

Essentially, the person’s message is one of extreme disapproval to the degree that the silence renders the target so insignificant that he or she is ignored and becomes more or less nonexistent.

Your partner is trying to shut you down.

There's no solution for it, because attempts to connect or redress reinforce the power of the silent partner.

All you can do is self talk, which includes, " my partner is choosing to punish me instead of deal with an issue.  Whatever  I've done, I'm not responsible for how my partner chooses to behave.  I have no control over my partner's behavior."

Then go about your day.  That gives you control back and limits the control attempt by the silent partner.

By the way,  the silent partner has the emotional maturity of a five year old.[/quote]

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