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[quote=Anonymous]I need help sorting out this situation: My DS (16) got his ear pierced this summer.  With both my and his Dad's approval (even if this would not have been out first fashion choice). In any case, we don't think it's a big deal. When my mother found out, she completely freaked out and essentially refuses to talk to him.  At first she simply ignored him and gave him the silent treatment, now she is polite but distant. In part , her reaction is cultural ( we are from another country where men don't wear jewelry. Period); in part it is somehow related to her father (my grandfather) who was adamantly against men wearing earrings (again, a cultural thing), and who died shortly before my son was born. Somehow my mom sees my son't earring as a betrayal of her father's memory .  The background to all of this, and what makes this particularly painful, is that my son and my mother shared --until the earring-- a very close relationship.  They were friends and confidants.  They went traveling together, and talked on the phone often.  My son always said -- and still does-- that my mom is his role model. My parents live 20 min away and we see them frequently. This has been devastating for my son, and puzzling to the rest of us. My mom has not brought it up with me, and I am afraid to bring it up with her because I fear I'll lose my cool because the situation is so absurd (you don't cut off relationship with your grandson over a fashion accessory!)  Anyway, I am just not sure what the best thing to do.  Do nothing and hope it will blow over? Ask my husband (who has a very good relationship with my parents) to have a conversation with her and try to talk reason into her? Try myself, knowing that it may end up badly?  She has the right to not like his choice, and to disapprove of it and to even tell him she does. But to essentially withheld her affection????? [/quote]

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