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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes I do all the time.  My instantaneous reaction when attacked or accused of something is to take the blame and assume I'm in the wrong.  It's usually only afterwards when I'm not reacting emotionally that I realize "WTF, I wasn't to blame for this crap!"  I've found the best way to deal is to a) not respond at all immediately and instead gather as much information as possible so I can go think on it on my own or b) communicate in writing so I don't have to respond immediately and can collect my thoughts as I go with each response.[/quote]

OP - funny that we have arrived at the same way of doing things.  I, too, do things in writing and after careful thought. But in situations in which I have to act on the fly, I am trying to figure out how to change that initial impulse to go with what makes the majority feel good only to find later it came at my expense.[/quote]

The only thing I've found that works with my processing/response style is to only gather information at the initial meeting/conversation/confrontation and only commit to "I'll have to think about that" or "I'll have to get back to you about that."  I try to force myself to never commit to anything unless I absolutely have to.  Anything to give myself time to process and think it through before making any decisions or getting pushed into anything.  [/quote]

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