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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Was he like this pre baby?[/quote]

I wondered this.  Clearly, his behavior is completely uncalled for.  Constantly nitpicking and belittling your spouse is death on a marriage (ask me how I know).  If this is a trait he's always had, the baby might have magnified it.  Or he's increasingly dissatisfied with his life and so acting out more.  Or something is going wrong at work and he's taking it out on you.  Or he's having his midlife crisis where he realizes this is actually his life, and he's unhappy.

In some sense, it doesn't matter.  He's being unkind and overly critical and defensive, which is the opposite of a loving spouse.  I'd just stop engaging.  When he starts criticizing you, don't defend yourself.  Just politely acknowledge what he said and go on.  Don't take it personally.  Build your life elsewhere.  From time to time, you might try talking about it again, but if it doesn't improve, there's not much you can do about it.  He's going to find something to criticize no matter what you do (ask me how I know)--if you do what he wants in one area, he'll just find something else to be upset about.[/quote]

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