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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not trying to create trouble. The kids are school age. We both work, so we both will be leaving kids with the nanny 3-5 pm. Of course I understand he gets home later, so they will be with nanny 3-6 or 6:30.on his weeks.  But if he has a night event, or wants to go out after work, can't I have them? 
I just think that if we each only have kids HALF the time, social events can be scheduled when the othe parent has the kids, right? 
Same for weekends. If he wants to golf, I want the kids. Not the nanny. 
I am new to this. 
And nervous of being without them. 
Just trying to figure out how to manage this. 
Lawyer appt this week so I am hopeful. [/quote]

Assuming you both love your children, can't you sit down and try to have an adult discussion about what you both can do to make this easier for them?

Make this not about "me" and "him" but about THEM.

Can you approach it as "In spite of our differences, we both love our kids very much. They are the best part of our marriage. Is there anything we can work out together to make this as easy for them as possible?"

Then go from there.

You both will forever be parents of these kids. Approach it focusing on your shared love for these kids. Not a who loves them more or you are dumping them with a sitter so you can party.

Your kids are the best parts of both of you. Act like it and do not make this a power struggle.[/quote]

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